If It's a Maybe, It's a No

If you’re unsure on whether you want to do or commit to something, use this saying.
If you’re not saying ‘yes to something’, but are thinking, ‘maybe’, it’s a no.

Take this example.  Recently I was asked if I wanted to go to the movies to see a film I was not interested in watching.  It was not a ‘yes’, but for social reasons it was a ‘maybe’.

Historically I would say no in this situation, but recently I’ve found myself diverting back to saying ‘maybe’.  Usually when I say no I tend to be straight to the point, which can sometimes be considered offensive.  That’s never the intention, but it’s because I often fail to deliver the message as gracefully as I probably should.

If you find yourself in a similar situation, where you’re thinking ‘maybe’ about something, say no.  Unless it is a definite yes, it is far better to keep that time available for another opportunity that may very well be a definite yes.

Here’s a sample script for how to do this politely:

“Thanks for the offer, but unfortunately I won’t be able to make it this time.  That being said, could you please let me know about the next time?”

Are there things in your life that you are currently saying ‘maybe’ to when really you should be saying ‘no’?