It is always easier to make a start on things than it is to finish them. This is because starting a new project is fun, exciting and holds lots of promise. However, after a little bit of time into it we start to feel demoralised as we don't see the results we expected, our hopes are not lived up to, etc. This is where the art of finishing and non-finishing comes into play.

What are the arts of finishing and non-finishing?

We often find ourselves faced with a variety of tasks. A simple look at my schedule shows that I have a number of work activities to complete, a number of books I have not finished reading and a number of other things I want to do. Some of these are likely not to be finished. On the other hand, I have processed a number of tasks off this list already, and am continuing to do so.

Finishing what we start (even when it is painful) teaches us persistence, patience and tenacity. The degree I am currently undertaking is a perfect example of this. The course content is not what I initially anticipated, and has left me feeling somewhat underwhelmed to the point where I have not continued putting in the effort I should have and my marks have suffered. However, obtaining my degree is something that I want to accomplish. As such, this year I will be devoting more effort to ensure the goal is seen through to completion.

Non-finishing on the other hand is a tricky subject. Sometimes we can think it is best to walk away (and many times, it is). It has taken me a long time to determine when non-finishing is better than finishing. My conclusion therefore is this:

It is best to stop doing something when the pain of going forward is more than the pain of going back (in the long term).

A good example could be seen in a marriage. One of the partners cheats and the mutual respect, trust, love and appreciation is violated. The couple may decide to continue down the path of reconciliation. However, if the damage has been significant to the point where the innocent party cannot stand the pain of going forward, perhaps it is best to leave.

We find ourselves in this situation all the time. Failure to make a decision on whether to finish something or not causes procrastination. It is often better to make a wrong decision in this case then none at all. The problem is, if we find ourselves in a position of making a decision we are taking mental bandwidth away from other projects we should be devoting our time to.

Some of the decisions I have made in the last few months (whether right or wrong) in relation to my personal situation are as follows:

1. To finish my degree.
2. To spend time finishing books I have started as opposed to buying new ones.
3. To dispose of books I have no intention of finishing rather than having them taking up mental bandwidth by being in my view and playing on my mind. Giving them away, disposing of them or selling them will help reduce the clutter too.
4. To continue to get back on the exercise regime even when I miss a few sessions.
5. To continue to work through tasks that are important on my to do list.
6. To make the sacrifice of simple enjoyments that are distractions from my long term goals and plans, etc.

Take a look at the projects (whether small or large) in your life at the moment. Are they taking up mental bandwidth in determining whether to finish them or not? If so, make a decision and take action now to start implementing that decision. If you are never going to read that book throw it out. If you need that course then stick to it despite the situation.

Give up those things you don't need in your life and embrace those that you want/need to make your life that much closer to reaching your potential. Doing so will also teach you the ability to make decisions, which is vital to long term growth.