30 days to reaching your potential day 29: The Golden Rule
The old saying 'you reap what you sow' seems to be very profound.
When it comes to human relationships, we tend to get what we give. If we desire to have quality relationships in our lives then we need to live by The Golden Rule.
What is The Golden Rule?
The Golden Rule is a term that has been used for many rules in a variety of different contexts. However, in relation to this 30 day series The Golden Rule is this: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Although simple sounding, this rule is actually quite difficult to uphold. We all have a number of times when we are able to listen, care, give, nurture, have patience and more, but what about during the crunch times when things are stressful at work or home, when we have had a bad day or things have not gone the way we initially hoped? That is when we need to apply The Golden Rule the most.
One thing I often notice with people who try to apply The Golden Rule is that they do to others expecting they will do the same to them in return. This is not the way it is designed. The notion behind The Golden Rule is to do to others what you would like them to do to you even when they don't do it. Reciprocation is not the name of the game when it comes to showing love to others.
How can I apply The Golden Rule?
The first step in determining how to apply The Golden Rule in your life is to begin by determining how you would like to be treated by others. All of us have a desire to be loved, to be shown mercy when things go wrong, to have people be honest and truthful with us even if it hurts, to be shown trust, to be happy, etc. Write down a list of the ways you would like to be treated.
The next step is to begin treating others the way in which you want to be treated. Want to be given a pay raise at work? Start by giving more and going the extra mile. Want to be shown more love by your partner? Take them out to dinner, listen to their thoughts and passions and then try to find things to help them in these endeavours. These examples are small but the application of The Golden Rule is limitless.
Spend a few minutes today applying The Golden Rule in one aspect of your life. Begin to increase the application as you build momentum and you are at a point where you are truly living a life where you do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
- Acknowledge The Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you
- Write a list of the way you would like others to treat you.
- Begin treating others the same way in which you would like to be treated.
- Start small and in one aspect of your life, and build momentum as time goes on.
- Consider the costs of not treating others the way you would like to be treated. How will they feel? How will they treat you? Will you destroy relationships rather than build them?